Relationship Myths and why you should be glad they are not true
It will get better when...
Believe me when I say it won't. I have seen so many couples wait it out
in an unhappy marriage hoping the future will change things. The future
might include "when I get that promotion..." or " When the kids are older...
" or " when we get our finances under control... " Instead of things getting
better when a life situation resolves, typically the old stressful
situation is replaced by a new one.
good news is that your circumstances are not the cause of your problems
(see the section on affairs also). Certainly difficult circumstances can
put stress on your marriage. However, it is up to you whether you will
let these circumstances pull your marriage apart or use those
circumstances to draw closer. Your marriage will get better when you
find a way to change the dance and you can find a way.